Advice
23 Ways to Cheat-Proof Your Relationship
Aug 16th
Copyright Dr. Denise Wood, M.A., Psy.D, 2010
Worried about your partner cheating? Not anymore! Learn what you can do to prevent cheating partners and make your relationship indestructible! Here are 23 things you can do to cheat-proof your romance- and they are easier than you think!
1) Make time for one another, no matter how busy your schedules get.
2) Respond to your mate with positivity (even if you have caught your partner cheating).
3) Treat your partner with the utmost respect.
4) Focus on the good qualities that your partner has- not the bad qualities.
5) Be present with your partner; really focus on them when they are talking to you.
6) Take care of yourself emotionally and physically for yourself and your partner.
7) Don’t let negative topics like housework or your lack of finances dominate all of your conversations with your partner.
8.) Don’t let your relationship get boring; keep it interesting. Men, you can prevent cheating women by making them feel beautiful and appreciated. Take her on a date!
9) Avoid turning towards others for all your comfort and entertainment. Make sure your partner is the major provider of these two things.
10) Do favors for your partner with a smile. You might be surprised by the favors you get back!
11) Learn the right way to deal with conflict. A therapist or marriage counselor can help you acquire this knowledge.
12) Be active with your partner.
13) Go to sleep at the same time as your significant other.
14) Think of five qualities that your partner has that you are grateful for on a daily basis and share them with your spouse- every day!
15) Never make hurtful comments to your partner on purpose.
16) Plan romantic outings with your partner. Go stargazing or spend the day at the beach together!
17) Focus on the relationship that you want for you and your partner; avoid focusing on the relationship that you do not want.
18) Visualize good things happening for you and your partner.
19) Remember to take time-out to just play with your partner.
20) Make sure you focus on sex, affection and physical contact with your partner.
21) Fake it until you can’t make it. You may be surprised at how positive you feel about your partner if you keep thinking positive thoughts about them.
22) Never be verbally or physically abusive to your mate.
23) Tell your mate on a daily basis how much you love them and how much they mean to you!
Guys, Who Says You Have to Be James Bond to Spy On Your Cheating Spouse?
Aug 13th
Copyright Dr. Denise P. Wood, M.A., Psy. D., 2010
If you’re ready to catch your wife cheat, have weighed all the PROS and CONS of spying, and still think spying on your partner is worth it, there are many options available for you to take a peak into your cheating spouse’s private life. Some of the best places were you can look for the information you need are her Computer, her Cell, her Car, and her Footsteps.
Her Computer: There are a number of quality computer and email monitoring programs available that will allow you to see what exactly your cheating spouse has been doing on his/her computer. KeyLog Pro is a PC monitoring program that runs in the background of your computer and records every web page that is accessed. It can help you view emails, web pages, IM’s, and some Facebook or MySpace content, all without your spouse suspecting a thing. Not crazy about the idea of downloading spy software onto your computer? Well, a portable device called the KeyCatcher Mini is a small, removable flash drive that can be inserted into your computer, and removed a short time later- after it records every keystroke typed into your computer!
Her Cell: Are you finally convinced it’s no coincidence that the mystery number on your spouse’s phone keeps calling? Well if you are, there are a number of websites and private detective agencies that can do cell phone number reversing, or in other words, retrieving the name and billing address of any unlisted cell phone number! The NNPI (National Network of Private Investigators) offers such a service for around $65.00 a number.
Want to save money? Get more creative in your snooping! If you just want to know what type of messages your cheating woman sends to her male colleagues and acquaintances you can try this easy solution:
Go under her contacts. Switch your name and number with the name of another man whom you are suspicious of. Since most people call through contacts instead of dialing these days she most likely will not notice that the numbers have been switched. This means that every time she thinks he’s texting “John from the office,” the texts are actually going to you!
Her Car: Find out where your cheating wife goes whenever she pulls out of the drive with a GPS Tracking Device for automobiles. They are small and easy to hide in the vehicle, run on batteries, and can record up to 18 days worth of driving time.
Her Footsteps: In the most desperate of situations, a betrayed spouse can also consider following their spouse, or, hiring a private investigator to follow their spouse. Again, you should really think through the PROS and CONS of spying before you ever do anything this invasive to your spouse. There are risks involved with spying, so really weigh your options and think about the consequences before testing out your inner James Bond.
Thinking About Catching Your Spouse Cheating? The Pros and Cons of Spying
Aug 13th
Copyright Dr. Denise Wood, M.A., Psy.D, 2010
If you are suspicious that you have a cheating spouse, it is completely normal for you to want to spy on him or her- but before you do- think carefully about the possible outcomes! Sure there are many reasons that you may want to investigate your cheating man/woman, but there are also a number of reasons why you shouldn’t spy on your spouse; and some of them might surprise you!
Here are the PROS and CONS of spying on your cheating spouse:
PRO: You can learn the truth
CON: You might wish you hadn’t learned the truth
PRO: You can catch them cheating
CON: They can catch you spying
PRO: You’ll find out if you can trust them
CON: They’ll find out you don’t trust them
PRO: They might leave their other
CON: They might leave you
PRO: Not knowing is emotionally draining
CON: Spying can drain your bank account
Now that you know some of the surprising outcomes of spying on your cheating spouse, you will be able to effectively decide if snooping around is the best decision for you and your relationship. Good Luck!
Confronting Cheating Spouses: 14 Excuses Never To Fall For and Why
Aug 12th
Copyright Dr. Denise Wood, M.A., Psy.D, 2010
When you confront your cheating spouse, you will hear EVERY excuse in the book. Read on to learn which types of excuses from your cheating woman or man are totally bogus and why your cheating spouse’s excuses just don’t cut it!
Excuse Type #1- “The Denials”:
“You are just being suspicious! It’s all in your head!”
“Not him/her. She’s just like a brother/sister to me!”
“It’s only harmless flirting!”
WHY The Denials DON’T WORK: The Denials are all about denying any evidence you might have of their infidelity. The problem with their argument? It’s their word versus yours, and they are hoping that you love them enough, or are vulnerable enough to fall for it. Don’t get played! Have the discernment to trust your own eyes and what you have the evidence to know is true- not the lies coming out of your cheating man/woman’s mouth.
Excuse Type #2- “The Blame Games”:
“You always try to control my life. I just needed some space!”
“I did it because you never show me you love me anymore!”
“You drove me to him/her!”
“If you were a better spouse to me I never would have had to do it!”
WHY The Blame Games DON’T WORK: The Blame games are all about giving the cheater justification to cheat. They have convinced themselves that they were completely justified in cheating on you because of one of your actions- now they just have to convince you that it is your fault as well. Don’t let them! Your spouse had hundreds of respectful and mature options for working out any problems they could have had with you, or your marriage. It was their choice to be sneaky and deceptive, and that is Not Your Fault.
Excuse Type #3- “The Helpless Victims”:
“I don’t know how he/she got my phone number!”
“It’s a fatal attraction! I couldn’t say no!”
“He/She started the whole thing! I never wanted to hurt you!”
“He/She took advantage of me!”
WHY The Helpless Victim Acts DON’T WORK: The Helpless Victims will want to act like they’ve been hurt just as much as you have by the whole situation. They will try to draw pity from you by playing the role of the victim. Don’t fall for it! The cheater is never as much of a victim as the ones they cheat on. They were not powerless to resist the temptation of the other woman/man. Your cheating spouse had the power to say yes or no, and they said yes.
Excuse Type #4- “The Table Turner”:
“What were you doing spying on me in the first place?”
“Are you cheating?”
“What aren’t you telling me?
WHY The Table Turners DON’T WORK: The Table Turner is all about distracting you long enough to take the focus off of themselves and their mistakes. They think that if they can somehow turn the tables on you, they will be off the hook. Don’t let them! This conversation isn’t about you, your personal problems, or that argument you had last Tuesday. It is about one simple fact: Are they cheating, or are they not cheating? Don’t let Tables Turners hijack the conversation or distract you from getting to the truth.
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Win Back Your Cheating Boyfriend and Get His Attention on Date Night!
Aug 12th
Copyright Dr. Denise Wood, M.A., Psy.D, 2010
Here’s How to Get Your Boyfriend to QUIT Checking Out Hot Chicks While You’re Having a Romantic Dinner.
He’ll be paying attention to ONLY YOU in no time!
1) Wear your hottest outfit; lets face it, it is a great way to stop cheating men!
2) Flirt…with him that is!
3) Laugh at his jokes.
4) Touch his foot with yours a couple of times under the table.
5) Tell him how great he looks that night.
6) Lean in close to him while he talks; he feels validated and gets the cleavage shot.
7) Say his name a number of times in the conversation.
8.) Brush his arm or his thigh intermittently; but don’t hang on him.
9) Ask him questions about himself.
10) Tell him how interesting he is.
11) Talk about what you would like to do to him when you leave the restaurant.
12) Excuse yourself to the ladies room; he needs to see your assets!
13) Make sure the waiter seats you at an intimate table.
14) Make sure you’re the one facing the room if given the choice; his best view is you; right?
15) Tell him how great his friends and his mother are.
16) Leave before it gets too late.
17) Never look at your phone.
18) Never answer a text.
19) Tell him he has amazing eyes.
20) Tell him he’s just plain yummy and he’s what you want for your dessert. Losing sight of you will be the LAST thing on this cheating man’s mind!
Bon appetite ladies!
Catch your Spouse Cheating…ONLINE!
Aug 9th
Copyright Dr. Denise P. Wood, M.A., Psy. D., 2010
It’s the new trend for cheating men, and its growing! Forget phone sex; cheating boyfriends today are cyber-cheating more than ever! The average man now spends a third of his time online using social networking sites, blogs, chat-rooms, and email to connect with others; a 43% increase from last year(1)!
But it’s not all fun and games! Cheating spouses are using these sites to meet other cheating women, chat with them, share pictures and videos, and arrange meetings!
Suspicious of your husband? No problem! Only Cheater-Chat.Com shows you where he cheats and how he hides it!
Tip #1: Check his computer. Even if you do not know his passwords, you might still be able to view his browser history to see exactly which sites he’s been looking at recently!
Tip #2: BEWARE THESE SITES!!! If you see ANY of these sites on your Spouse’s computer you have reason to be concerned. Many of them are designed to help connect men and women who are Looking for Affairs!
If your spouse looks at any of these sites…
ashleymadison.com, WooMe.com, udate.com, cyberpageant.com, besthq.com, cheatropolis.com, PalTalk.com, MarriedandCheating.com, Mating-Game.com, Married-Match.com, iWANTU.com, wifelovers.com, swingers-ad.com, swingtown.com, adultfriendfinder.com, or adultmatchdoctor.com…
He wants to cheat on you.
Also Beware of:
-MSN, AOL, and Yahoo groups or chats. They provide groups such as “Married and Flirting,” or “Married but Looking.”
-Craigslist! From personal ads to invitations to “swinger parties” Craigslist is now commonly used as a cheater’s tool!
Tip #3: Pay attention to the amount of time your Cheating Man is spending on the internet. It’s a red-flag if he insists on being online for long periods of time, or insists on having privacy while on the internet (such as always going online while you are sleeping).
Tip #4: Be aware of how He Covers His Tracks!
-The average person does not clear their browser history every day. If the history on your computer is constantly empty he may be hiding something.
-The average person does not have more than five email accounts. Your cheating man may use one email for you and a separate email for others.
(1. 2010, The Nielson Company)
Good Luck Ladies!
-CheaterChat
WHAT SHOULD I DO WITH MY HOME IF I FILE FOR DIVORCE IN 2010?
Aug 2nd
We have been going through some of the worst economic times since The Great Depression.? Numerous articles and newscasts have stated either that the housing market has bottomed out, or is still going down.? In Michigan, we have the most depressed housing market in the United States.? Other states, including Florida, California, and Arizona – just to name a few, are also going through some horrible economic times with regard to housing.? In the past, before the economy bottomed out, homes were a family’s most valuable asset.? In the last year and a half, that has changed substantially.? In many of my divorce cases, the marital home is no longer an asset, but is heavily encumbered by debt.? Many people purchased homes in the past ten years, expecting their home to become a piggy bank for future savings and retirement.? Sadly, this is no longer the case.? Many people were obtaining mortgages, followed by home equity loans and second mortgages, based upon numbers that no longer exist.
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